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Innergize newsletter, Winter 2010

A thought provoking question
The know-it-all interpreter in your life
Mistakes we make over and over and ...

The last newsletter focused on recognizing hidden opportunities. If you missed it, take a look at the Innergize blog. This newsletter follows up with a thought provoking question. Questions can be a powerful tool for activating your internal GPS, your Global Positioning System for achieving success.

  • The first question sets your destination.

  • The rest lock-in the most direct path, providing detailed directions,

  • and just like using the GPS in your vehicle, questions provide ongoing feedback, a way of checking and adjusting your course from time to time.

So the question is ...

What has to happen for 2010 to be your best year yet?

When was the last time you asked yourself a question like that and then thought deeply about your answer? We may set goals, measure certain activities, even block time for specific tasks. Yet few of us take the time for deep thought about what it will take to get there. (Deep thought is the hallmark of experts.)

If you take a minute now and think about how you would answer the question, what comes to mind? Writing your answer down and seeing it on paper is an easier way of discovering the deeper meaning behind your words. 

  • Is what has to happen something you’ll do, an activity or behaviour?

  • Is it a feeling or quality, like having more confidence, more energy or less stress?

  • Is there a hidden belief in what you wrote? About yourself, the people in your life or your business environment?

  • Is what has to happen within your own control? Something you can ‘do, or not do’ as Yoda would say.

  • If not, can you break it into smaller bites or contributing elements that you can control.

  • When and where will this be happening?

  • How often? Is it something you’ll do every day? Once or twice a week? Monthly?

When you think about it logically and rationally, you already have the knowledge, skills and experience required. You know what to do and how to do it, right? And you probably know people who’ve achieved the results you want with less knowledge, perhaps even fewer skills? 

So … what are your sticking points?
What could possibly prevent you from doing what you know? 

  • Distractions, lack of focus?

  • Lack of confidence during critical activities?

  • Competing priorities and time pressures?

  • Feeling overwhelmed?

Sticking points whatever you call them, drain your energy.

  • It’s like driving with one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake.

  • It can feel like you're spinning your wheels, working longer and harder just to stay in place.  

So the question is, what can you do starting now, that will begin moving you through those sticking points and towards your best year yet?

You can clear some sticking points using conscious, logical left brain thinking. For more see the note below.1

What about your deeper power?

There is another option, a quicker and some would say easier way of clear sticking points – by harnessing the power of your unconscious mind and right brain processing.

It's also more fun. Because your unconscious mind is a wizard at handling competing priorities, reducing stress and handling hot button situations that can hijack your emotions and behaviour.

Neuroscience has demonstrated that as much as 95% of our decisions, our emotions and what we do, is controlled by the unconscious mind, and that we simply use our conscious mind to justify decisions made outside of conscious awareness.2

Interested in learning more? Send me an email and we can talk. And one more thought from that perennial font of wisdom ...

The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking places. Anon

1Contact Us and I'll send you a list of steps. If you cringe at the thought of lists and steps, that’s fine. Just ask for the ‘optional’ planning guide.

It has taken a long time for us to reach the understanding that much of what we do is not under conscious control, even though we thought that it was.  Michael Gazzaniga, neuroscientist and author of Human: The Science Behind What Makes Us Different

Meet your Know-it-all Interpreter

Gazzaniga calls left hemisphere processing – the part of our brain responsible for language, logical thinking and reasoning activities – a.k.a. the conscious mind, a Know-it-all Interpreter.

The Know-it-all conscious mind is driven to make meaning of things. It will interpret, distort, delete and generalize information to formulate something meaningful that fits the circumstances and sounds logical. Whether it’s accurate, or not!

Not surprisingly, this leads to mistakes, so many in fact, that there is an explosion of books on the subject. Previous newsletters mentioned two in particular, Predictably Irrational3 and Nudge.4  

Mistakes we make over and over and ...

Joseph T. Hallinan author of Why We Make Mistakes, provides some memorable research on how we routinely delete, distort and generalize information, the real reasons behind our mistakes.

Before sharing some examples from Hallinan's book, a couple of ideas are worth keeping in mind:

  • Deleting, distorting and generalizing can have positive and negative affects. It depends on when and where we use them – the task and context.

  • Expectations (our beliefs) shape both the way we see the world and our behaviours.

Multi-tasking = Forgetting

Hallinan calls multi-tasking a grand illusion from computer programming, because it is impossible to divide conscious attention between two conscious activities. We are really attention switching. You may be able to walk and chew gum at the same time, but only after the underlying activity (walking) becomes so automatic it's unconscious.

Trying to perform two mental tasks at the same time erodes our memory

  • 'Working memory' keeps track of short-term data, like numbers and names. When the brain switches between tasks, data begins disappearing in as little as 2 seconds. And who hasn't had the experience of being introduced to as few as three people, and found you'd forgotten the first person's name by the time you met the third? 

  • Within 15 seconds of considering a new problem, we can forget up to 40% of what we were working on previously.

  • And it can take up to 15 minutes to get back our concentration after distractions like phone calls and text messages. Even longer if we're expecting a response. Worth thinking about the next time you're studying for an exam or attending a seminar?

The illusion of multi-tasking also slows our reaction time

The US National Highway Traffic Safety Administration calls it in-attentional blindness.

  • NHTSA  recently revised their estimation of distraction-related accidents after a study equipped vehicles with cameras for two years. This way, they could see what drivers were really doing if they were in an accident. (Self-report is highly unreliable because memory is actually a reconstruction, biased towards seeing our own behaviour in the best light.)

  • They found that in 78% of all crashes and 65% of near misses drivers were actually looking away from the road. (Previous research based on what drivers said they were doing indicated that only 25% were based on distraction.)

The US air force calls it task saturation, doing too many things at once.

  • It is so common Honeywell engineers coined their own term, Controlled Flight Into Terrain for flying a perfectly good plane into the ground!  

Rapid Fire Analysis

We skim.

  • We believe we have the ability size up situations quickly and miss critical details. Especially when you're working with complex data. Like preparing for a CFP exam as an example.

  • The more we think we're an expert, the higher the temptation to skim. Think of the medical profession where doctors were once considered infallible. Many hospitals are now encouraging nurses to speak up.

  • This practice follows the changes in chain-of-command on aircraft flight decks, where all crew are trained to speak up during emergencies. 

We Are Poorly Calibrated

In this context, calibration is the difference between actual and perceived abilities.

  • We think we are better than we are.

  • Wearing rose coloured glasses is great for motivation, but over confidence can be a hidden flaw when you're making critical judgments and predictions.

In 2008 Anderson and Bojaj 2008, looked at the error rates for American securities analysts predicting company earnings. 

  • 1980 incorrect 30% of the time

  • 1985 incorrect 52% of the time

  • 1990 incorrect 65% of the time

Since 2008 Merrill Lynch has required their analysts to give an under perform or sell rating to at least 20% of their stocks. So how do you improve your calibration? Good question ...

In the next couple newsletters we'll cover more of these perceptual traps. If you'd like ideas for avoiding the traps, the field of neuro-linguistics works extensively with these perceptual filters.

  • We have effective tools for avoiding the errors workplace stress they cause.

  • On the up side these filters can also be used increasing productivity, motivation, sales and customer satisfaction.

Contact Us or call me at 416-492-3200, if you have questions.
 

2Joseph LeDoux, Your Emotional Brain; Antonio Damasio, The Feeling of What Happens
 
3Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely; his website is worth a visit: http://www.predictablyirrational.com/
 
4Nudge, Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth and Happiness by Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein. While the paternalistic recommendations made by the authors may raise your hackles, the research on behavioural economics is undeniable, it's being used and affects all of us. That may make it worth a look.

Related Consumer Behaviour Research (neuro-science)

  1. When asked about product choices, if people don't know consciously, they will make up salient, plausible and socially acceptable reasons for what they do.¹
    In other words, customers will tell you what they think they should want, based on social influences - a tendency that has led to some costly miss-takes in consumer research.

  2. While features and benefits supply the rational reasons to justify a decision once it is made, the unconscious sensory elements of an experience have a far greater influence (positive or negative) on emotions, buying decisions and customer loyalty.¹

  3. Non-verbal cues and linguistic markers provide the most accurate information about what people want and intend to do, because they are largely unconscious. ²

¹ J. Le Doux, Center for Neural Science, NYU, Your Emotional Brain 1989
² J. Kagan, Harvard Mind:Brain:Behavior Initiative, 2002
 

End notes

If you're considering the fall NLP Practitioner Program see 'NLP or Coaching?' on the Innergize blog (http://innergize.wordpress.com) may answer some of your questions.

A few quotes ...

On Multi-tasking:
Humans can't multi-task—we can't pay attention to two things simultaneously. No, multi-tasking is really just rapid attention-switching. And that'd be a useful skill, except it takes us a second or two to engage in the new situation we've graced with our focus. So, the sum total of attention is actually decreased as we multi-task. Slicing your attention, in other words, is less like slicing potatoes and more like slicing plums. You always lose some of the juice.
David Weinberger, The Cluetrain Manifesto

In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
George Orwell

“When things stop growing, they begin to die.”
Charles Gow, in Managing Corporate Lifecycles  (a little harsh, but worth thinking about!)

“Even if you are on the right road, you will eventually get run over if you just sit there.” Anon (who else?)

Check out the Innergize blog found at http://www.innergize.wordpress.com. If you like, share a story of your own using the comment box. 

A blog worth a visit if you need a little humor in your day.  

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